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You need to wear a thong (from A Crazy Redhead's blog)
Posted By: acrazyredhead on
Okay, so there are times when we need to hear your opinion and other times we don’t. A few weeks ago, I was leaving a restaurant with a few girlfriends. My friend, Megan, was walking a few steps behind me. Let me stop here and tell you that Megan is one of those girls you want to hate but just can’t because she is really not hateable at all. She is a sweetheart. But, you do want to hate her because she is really beautiful, thin, smart and has great style. Okay, I digress. So Megan says to me, “Those pants are really cute but I can see your panty lines. You need to start wearing thongs.” This was not said in a mean way at all. She was truly being helpful and she was right. I have had almost twenty years since I was told that VPL (visible panty lines) were an awful site. I was too afraid or disgusted by the idea of thongs back then. However, I realized now that I should have followed this advice when I heard the VPL truth from my gay male college friend (whom of course I did not know at the time was gay – but that is another blog entry in itself). Back to present day, I appreciated the thong tip and decided Megan was right. However, later that day, I received a voicemail from Megan. The voicemail was an apology for the comment. Megan felt terrible that she criticized my choice of undergarments and was so worried she hurt my feelings. I truly was not upset or hurt; I sincerely appreciated (and needed) the advice. Sometimes it is very helpful and necessary to receive constructive criticism. This situation got me thinking – well, since my mind never stops going, it did not “get me thinking” but just switched my mind gears into this situation. The question is “when do we want or need truthful advice?” How often have you seen a friend after an unfortunate visit to the hairdresser and wondered if you should tell the truth? Probably not. OR, Do you tell your friend who is so happy to finally fit into a way too tight size 6 pair of pants that she would really look better in the comfortable size 8 instead? Definitely, if a camel toe is involved. Or more seriously, would you tell your friend if you knew her spouse was cheating on her? (Unfortunately, I have been personally faced with that one and it was not a friend but a family member and a pretty horrible situation - again, saving that one for many many future blog entries) In my opinion, the answer lies in the following simple statement. If the friend who will be hearing the truth can simply remedy the situation, then GO FOR IT! In other words, there is no reason to tell a friend that everyone thinks her husband is a jerk because all that is going to do is hurt her. However, if that same husband has a piece of seaweed in his teeth, you can feel free to tell him. Lastly, remember to only give the advice when “the offender” can do something about it. Once, years ago, and only once, my husband made the following mistake: We were out on a Saturday night with friends. He looked at my jeans and told me that they were not the best look for me – okay he was not that diplomatic but you get the point. While I would have appreciated the advice prior to leaving the house, there was nothing I could do about it while waiting in line to buy movie tickets – except of course spend the rest of the night obsessing about how bad I looked in those jeans. I calmly (okay, I admit, not so calmly) explained to him that next time, I would prefer to hear “the truth” when I could have CHANGED MY STUPID JEANS BEFORE WE LEFT THE HOUSE! I think you get the point. As for me, I threw away those jeans immediately when I got home that night. And of course, more recently I learned that after a few minutes, you forget you are wearing a thong! If you enjoyed reading this, you can read more of my blogs at www.acrazyredhead.wordpress.com
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Maven Magazine Celebrates 1st Anniversary in Philadelphia
Posted By: maveneditor on
PHILADELPHIA (May 26, 2008) - Maven Magazine, the local online magazine for social and style conscious women, is about to celebrate its first anniversary.
Launched on June 15, 2007, Maven was created due to frustration over a lack of quality local information on all that young professional women seek when they enter the work world, move to a new city, or move into the next phases of their lives.
Maven covers fashion, beauty, home décor, relationships, health and fitness, finance, careers, events and more. All articles are written by local people and cover topics and trends found in national print women's magazines as well as national women's websites, but cover these topics from a local perspective.
Often magazines and websites tell you about national trends of interest to women but they fail to adequately provide information to women on how and where to implement these trends where they live. Yes, they talk about the latest and greatest in New York and LA, but most American women do not live in either of these locations. So how do women find the latest and greatest in their communities?
Maven took off faster than expected. It is the beginning of what is hoped will continue to be a viral marketing success story. In addition to the original email list consisting of primarily GenX and Millennials who are very active on the internet to begin with, Maven has always had at least 25 local writers at a time and each of these writers has their own loyal friends and family list that have been exposed to the site to read that writer's latest column. Then consider the local businesses and people Maven writes about - each of those has a customer, friends and family list that has been exposed to the site as well. Add to this the fact that those featured in the publication tend to place links to the articles written about them on their sites and Maven continues to increase exposure to the magazine this way as well.
Maven Magazine will begin launching twice per month starting with the anniversary month this June and look for a completely revamped and much more interactive site to go live in the 3rd quarter of 2008. You can also expect Maven to launch in additional cities soon after the redesigned site launches here in Philadelphia. Those plans are already underway.
For more information please visit the website at www.philadelphiamaven.com
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Posted By: valeriegbs on
It is so tough being single in this married world! Not only does everybody talk about things like what size clothes their toddlers are in, but once all your friends get married, you tend to have less in common, and they are too busy with their kids to keep in touch with you. Then you are left friendless, because everyone you know is married! I have nothing against married people-I hope to be one myself someday!-but why is it that I seem to be the only single person anywhere near me in her 30's? Not everyone else can be married, can they? If they are out there, why is it so hard to find them? aren't they feeling the same way I am?
Financially it is tough being single too! Have you noticed that sales and discounts at places are for families? "Buy one cell phone, get one free!" Well, why would I need 2 cell phones?! "Buy one large pizza, get the 2nd at half price!" If I were to eat 2 large pizzas myself, I would never meet Mr. Right because I would be so overwieght! What about us single people, advertisers? Do we have to pay full price for everything just because we are single? Give us a break too!
How is a girl supposed to meet a guy nowadays anyway? I'm past the stage of clubbing, and I'm not exactly going to meet him teaching a bunch of kids all day! I've turned to online dating as pathetic as it sounds, but that's going nowhere too.
Anyone else experienceing the same type of things as I just talked about?
Valerie
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I’m Sorry
Posted By: sandybryant on
Don’t worry folks. This is not a soppy post giving an apology to someone I should have apologized to a long time ago. Y’all know me well enough to know that I’ll just call the person out of the blue and apologize, even if that individual didn’t remember me OR the wrong. This post is about how often we as women say “I’m sorry” when an apology is not needed.
What started this rant: Yesterday I called my mother to talk again about the divorce. It looks like everything is progressing as it should and the divorce should be final in a couple months. A reasonable settlement has been accepted and we’re hopeful that Dad won’t try to drag it out. (There’s no benefit to him to do so.) Anyway, while discussing the meeting, Mom said something to the effect of “I’m sorry your dad doesn’t like how this is going.”
SCREECH!
I had to interject. “Oh no, you’re not. You’re not sorry one bit. You have NOTHING to be sorry about.” I didn’t say this in an accusatory tone but rather a supportive tone. She understood what I was trying to say. She tried a couple other times to rephrase what she said, each time with an apology involved. I finally told her the only person she owed an apology to was herself. My sister and I were fine and weren’t hurt by this. She was the one who was hurt by not seeing that Dad was cheating on her. She was the one who was hurt by staying with a man who cared so little for her. And really the only person who should apologize is my father for his actions.
Women apologize too much. We apologize when we stand up for ourselves. “I’m sorry, but I was here first and you may not get in front of me in line.” We apologize for giving an honest answer. “I’m sorry, but I’m really not in the market for new siding on my house.” “I’m sorry, but I really cannot help with a donation at this time.” Yes, I understand this is merely wording that women use to appear polite, but it is language you ONLY hear women use. Men don’t apologize when they give honest answers nor when they stand up for themselves. It’s time that women stopped using such meek language.
In dance class, I instruct my students to not apologize for mistakes. If we apologize for all mistakes we make in class, we spend the entire class going “oops oops sorry sorry oops oops” instead of fixing our mistakes and moving on. I tell them to apologize only if pain, blood, or broken bones are involved. “No blood, no foul.”
So, let’s take an example from that instruction in our lives outside the studio. Do not apologize when your actions have caused no harm. If you are standing up for yourself, you do not need to apologize. If you are saying no to a salesman or solicitor, don’t preface it with “I’m sorry.” And lastly, don’t express an apology for the feelings of others when it is their actions that brought harm upon themselves, particularly when they also harmed you in the process. Apologizing for these things even only as polite language is timid.
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