Thelma and Louise - First Question!
Dear Thelma and Louise,
I have been married 15 plus years and up to this point, we have been fairly happy.
My hubby has never been unfaithful to me since we were married, but lately, he speaks of a woman (we will call her linda. Thier offices are very close and they have lunch together nearly every day. People are coming to me, and asking me what is going on between them. I honestly have no idea. Linda IS a flirty person and very recently had breast augmentation. She walked right up to my husband and said, "what do you think of these now?"
What do you make of all of that? Should I be worried? Should I say something to him about it? Should I warn her off my man?
Signed..........
Worried
There is nothing more unattractive than two women fighting over a man. Don't even speak to her. Do you really want to have a conversation with a woman who thrust her saline laden breasts in your husband's face and asked what he thought of them. I know what I think of the breasts and I didn't even see them. I also know what I think of her which is why you shouldn't speak to her.
Perhaps it's fun for him to flirt with her. It won't be so much fun for him if he crosses a line and gets involved with her now will it? I'd work that into a conversation one night. Make sure he knows you are aware of her existance. Make sure he knows what he would lose should he be so foolish as to cross a line with her. Make sure you know where all of your household income, investments and savings are. Make sure you have already made a phone call to the best divorce lawyer in town (that way he can't).
You are wondering if something is going on between this woman and your husband. He's already opened the door and mentioned her to you. Just ask him why he spends so much time with her. Ask where they have lunch and can you join them sometime. Ask him what he thinks of her new breasts. Ask lots of questions about her. Insert yourself into the "twosome" they have become. Remind them both that you are the woman in his life....and will be respected and treated as such.
Louise
Dear Worried,
Yes, I would be worried too. However, if he has told you all these things, maybe its harmless and hes not trying to hide his friendship. But then again, maybe he's telling you in a joking manner to keep you off guard about her.
Regardless, I think I would do a little "research" (ie. spy a little) and then casually be around one day for one of their lunch dates. And DONT do it alone. Take a friend with you. The reaction on their faces should tell the tale.
One thing though, and I always say this. Prepare for the worst, and hope for the best!
Thelma
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